Updated: Jun 10
The Big Book tells us on pg.83 "We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." I myself have said so many times, "That's in the past, I don't want to talk about it." What I really mean is I was at fault or that I have major character defects that I don't want to talk about because then you'll know that I'm not a perfect human being. Or I simply did something terrible that I just don't want to talk about because it reminds me of the harm that I've caused. What if there is a positive to doing something wrong? What if there is something positive for recognizing my own character defects? When I was working my forth step with my sponsor he brought me in on something that I've never really thought about. What does it really mean to not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it? He explained it to me as we do not regret the past because it's made us who we are today and we don't shut the door on it because then we don't learn from it nor can we help another alcoholic by missing out on sharing our experience, strength, hope.