Updated: Jun 12
Acceptance. Such a simple word, right? Acceptance means what exactly? Webster defines the word in a couple different ways. One, "the quality or state of being acceptable or accepted". Two, "the act of accepting someone or something: the fact of being accepted".
For me I have to learn daily that acceptance is much more that what Webster defines it as. Acceptance is my way of life. I have to accept people, places and things for who they are, why they are and where they are, including myself, otherwise I will not find serenity. In the Big Book on pg. 417 it says "And acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation-some fact of MY life-unacceptable to me." So you're telling me when I have a problem with someone or something, the real issue is what lies within myself? As an alcoholic I've been told a time or two that I have a few character defects. I use to wish and think to myself, if people will only do what I want them to do then the world would be perfect. Boy was I wrong, there's that word again..."Acceptance". In a time of people literally losing their minds over a virus, I sit here and accept the virus for what it is. First question, can I do anything about it? Can I change it? If the answer is no, then I accept the things I cannot change, only ask God to give me the courage to change the things I can. I have to accept life on life's terms, good or bad. Who am I to decide the reason behind things? When I do try and decide on what should or shouldn't be, that's me telling God, "Sit this one out big guy, I'll run the show for a bit. I'll let you know when I need you again."
If I don't wake up everyday and not only admit that I am an alcoholic but also accept it, I am doomed. So today I accept that I am an alcoholic and work towards recovery and not relapse. So any time I am disturbed by someone or something I have to remember...acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems today.